Saying ‘I do’ is more than just a formality at a wedding – it’s a vow to a lifelong commitment to spend the rest of your life with the one whom you love. It also means verbally agreeing to look at this person day in/day out for the rest of your days. Let’s hope you picked a looker, right? All kidding aside, no seriously…let’s hope they’re attractive. It’s the one redeeming quality they will have that will apologize for their morning breath come every 7:00 am. 😉 So, the First Look…
All jokes aside (we mean it this time), one of the biggest questions/debates we’ve seen among brides and grooms is whether or not they plan doing a First Look. The First Look might not seem like it would be that big of concern considering you’ve been looking at this person in the face for a while now (unless you’re in an arranged marriage, and in that case, let’s hope for the best. See paragraph 1). So what’s all the hubbub? Well, as it turns out, some of you out there like the idea of keeping to tradition. How and why did that tradition begin? Well, read back a few sentences and you’ll see we’ve already told you: arranged marriages.
According to BridalGuide.com, arranged marriages were all the rage, they were looked upon as business transactions between families. Most likely, the fathers of the brides-to-be wanted to protect their end of the deal by refusing the groom to “check out the goods”, as it were. Should ol’ Jim-Bob Groom catch a glimpse of ol’ Betty Lou Bride and he didn’t fancy her, well, by his right he could easily call off the whole wedding thus putting a firm stop to the deal. And let’s face it, what gal wants to be the one who brought about that kind of humiliation and scandal for her family. Chances are they’d have to adopt the carnival model of high-tailing it out of town once everyone got wise.
What to do, What to do?
Fast forward to today and it’s a foregone conclusion you’ve already swiped right on your partner, and besides, as we all know, looks aren’t everything. It takes much, much more than that to make a successful marriage, and it looks like you’re heading in the right direction! So with that in mind it really comes down to a matter of preference; what’s best for you! It’s your day, and by golly you should do with it what you want. If you want to make your groom stand on edge wondering how beautiful you’re going to look, then by all means, make that man wait! If you want to throw tradition to the wind and have some extra time in your day for some additional creative shots with you and your photographer (hint, hint) then by all means, stare your partner down, strike a pose and go for that First Look!
Either way you look at it, you’re going to end up looking at each other. After all, that’s why you’re here, right?
If you’re all set on your First Look, take a moment and look at some of our wedding specials just for you!
Our couple featured above, Ben and Regina, chose to have their first look taken at Bahá’í House of Worship in one of their several beautiful garden locations before heading off to Pinstripes in Northbrook, IL for their wedding ceremony and reception. It truly was a remarkable day!